About Your Marriage
Thank you for visiting the About Your Marriage page.
My name is Dave Pipitone of songofourmarriage.com.
You may have a few questions about who I am, what are my background and qualifications to offer you the books, products, and information on this site.
A little more about that a little later.
The goal of this website is to provide you with the resources to enjoy expressing your love to your spouse.
Married life is about joy and love.
Joy is the deepest feeling of happiness that you can experience in life.
And your marriage can be a great source of joy, especially when you are actively involved in living a life of love every day.
Marriage is a Journey of the Heart
The journey of marriage takes a lifetime.
To keep on track, and not get lost on the journey, you need a reliable compass for direction.
I believe that the best way to navigate a loving marriage that lasts is to use a L.O.V.E. compass to navigate a treasuring map.
Love is a verb.
Love takes action to express itself.
The L.O.V.E. compass points you in the right direction to take action.
Listen. Observe. Value. Express.
Following those four compass points help you turn your heart toward your spouse and open it so that she knows how precious she is.
I treasure my wife and I let her know it.
That’s why the Express part of the L.O.V.E. compass is so vital.
Without Expression, real love doesn’t happen.
E is for Express
Love letters, love songs, love notes, and loving actions are sure-fire ways you can express your love to your spouse.
Married couples have used these methods for hundreds of years.
Every husband and wife can grow deeper in love with each other.
Make sure to use the information on this site to love your spouse.
Contact me if there is something that you need and you don’t find here.
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My Personal Story
My wife Cheryl and I have been married since 1982 – the first marriage for both of us.
I was 29 when I met Cheryl in June, 1981.
We married each other about sixteen months after we met.
The early years of our marriage were challenging, as we struggled to know and love each other.
My confession is that I didn’t know how to relate well to Cheryl.
I didn’t understand Cheryl and I didn’t understand myself very well, either.
In the early years of our marriage, I was like a storm chaser.
It was easy for me to brood, think the worst and become upset with my wife.
For example, Cheryl and I would be driving along and she would witness my internal conversations.
She could feel a storm brewing.
Unfortunately, I would blow off steam at her, which made her feel bad about herself.
These personal hurricanes shut down the loving communication and conversation in our marriage.
Instead of feeling and growing in joy, we both felt miserable.
Finding the Eye of the Hurricane
My personal awareness of my limitations grew as we began working with engaged couples.
Cheryl and I mentored couples who took the PREPARE inventory of their relationship before they married.
Later, we hosted engaged couples in our home for several sessions of marriage preparation.
We made two Marriage Encounter retreats and met a number of wonderful, happily married couples.
As we joined in talking about our marriage, and hearing the stories of other couples, we began to grow.
How Mentors Helped Me
As I wondered how we could improve our communication, I began to witness the love of other married couples.
We took and led a Couples Night Out program at our Catholic parish.
We read books on marriage by experts like Dr. John Gottman, Scott Haltzman, David and Claudia Arp and more.
In spring 2009, I took the 40-day Love Dare that helped me focus on the commitment I made to Cheryl when we married each other.
How I Learned to Express My Love to My Spouse
I discovered that I needed a foundation for expressing my love to Cheryl.
I didn’t always say or write out my loving feelings.
I don’t know if it was a moment of grace, a flash of insight or an “epiphany,” but I created “I Treasure You” note cards.
As time went on, I began writing frequent treasuring notes to Cheryl. She loved to get these notes and she kept them in a treasuring chest.
It was over time, I discovered that marriage is a journey of the heart.
Why Love Songs and Song of Our Marriage
I wrote a marvelous love song for my wife, Song of Our Marriage in 1996. In 1998, I recorded the song. I created this website in 2005.
In November 2011, we discovered a treasure trove of songs that Cheryl’s uncle, Joe Cummins wrote.
Joe loved country-western music. Both Joe and Aggie died and left their possessions to Cheryl.
We sorted through Joe’s songs and found nearly 130 love songs, which married couples can read to each other.
What’s in This for You?
Your marriage is a precious gift and I want you to experience all of the love and joy that God has in store for you.
Married couples have used love letters, love songs, love notes, and loving actions for hundreds of years to express their love to each other.
So can you.
I encourage you to express your love to your spouse today!
Use the resources on this site to get started today.
A good place to start is to learn about reading love song lyrics to your spouse.
Click on the highlighted text to read about why read love song lyrics in your marriage.
May your marriage be filled with love and good words.
Thank you and may God bless you.
Streamwood, IL USA